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Interracial Dating?
Miami has been known and classified as a cultural "melting pot" full of diversity. Our city embraces various religions, ethnicities, races and cultures.However, aside from what may be seemingly acceptable to the public eye, does Miami truly embrace interracial dating?
Considering we are now more than 40+ years past segregation, are old paradigms and racial barriers still thriving in today's society?
While most of us would not think twice of an interracial couple holding hands or sharing public displays of affection while walking down the street, do you believe there are still more than just a few who might find this displeasing or unacceptable?
And, even if the vast majority of our city has embraced interracial dating, how about the inner family social dynamic? Not to be a bust to my own background and heritage but unfortunately a lot of traditional Cuban families do not accept, nor tolerate the idea of dating someone out of their "own kind". From time to time I hear that this is still a question of concern amongst many Black, Asian and Middle-Eastern families.
What's your view? Your experience?
I would really like your take on this.
Considering we are now more than 40+ years past segregation, are old paradigms and racial barriers still thriving in today's society?
While most of us would not think twice of an interracial couple holding hands or sharing public displays of affection while walking down the street, do you believe there are still more than just a few who might find this displeasing or unacceptable?
And, even if the vast majority of our city has embraced interracial dating, how about the inner family social dynamic? Not to be a bust to my own background and heritage but unfortunately a lot of traditional Cuban families do not accept, nor tolerate the idea of dating someone out of their "own kind". From time to time I hear that this is still a question of concern amongst many Black, Asian and Middle-Eastern families.
What's your view? Your experience?
I would really like your take on this.
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Permalink Reply by Maria Elena Frederick on
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I have recently met and am "dating" a black man. He is handsome, intelligent (2 college degrees), clean and well regarded in his career. Although I never saw myself with a black man, compared to the loser latinos I have met recently, he is a true gem.
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Permalink Reply by Rick Roca on
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I believe that u have to be a really good looking women nowadays to get a latino mans attention.... maybe ur looks jus are'nt cutting it! Remeber once u go black we dont want u back! lol
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Permalink Reply by Miss Susy on
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Interesting... Thanks guys for the feedback.
I'd like to hear more though. Come to the Platanos & Collard Greens performance next week Thursday. The show is a nationally acclaimed off-Broadway hit and after there will be a live community discussion on Interracial Dating. Yours truly will be a panelist on the discussion.
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(Inside the Ziff Ballet Opera House)
February 17-28
"Love Conquers All" Community Discussion: Interracial Relationships
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Panelists include:
- Co-Moderator: Supa Cindy, 99 JAMZ
- Co-Moderator: James Burnett, Miami Herald
- Dr. Dionne Patricia Stephens, Assistant Professor, Psychology & African Diaspora Studies, Florida International University
- Sandie Luna, Cast Member (Samana)
- Phillip J. Smith, Cast Member (Freeman)
- Susan Abascal "Miss Susy," from MIAMIurbanlife (Miami's first social network)
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Permalink Reply by CHICAGO on
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americans including latinos are a product of intermarriage among black native and euro folks over 500 yrs of dates. some are lost, need quality education. lets evolve naturally people. y tu abuela donde esta!
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Well said... unfortunately old paradigms, traditions and family structuring hasn't evolved as much as we would have hoped. For example, my generation... for the most part my peers are generally accepting of interracial dating. We follow a similar philosophy- if they make you happy and treat you right, does it matter where they are from? However, many of my peers' family (parents/grandparents/aunts/uncles) don't share that philosophy. It would still be considered unacceptable and taboo to even consider. That's at least 2 generations preceding my own and my own generation would take a close to half split. Meaning... half of my generation doesn't accept interracial dating which will trinkle down into the next generation by maybe a quarter (hopefully less). So maybe 2 generations from now we can hope to be color blind/ethnic blind. Maybe then, we can start hoping for more love and peace in the world.
CHICAGO said:americans including latinos are a product of intermarriage among black native and euro folks over 500 yrs of dates. some are lost, need quality education. lets evolve naturally people. y tu abuela donde esta!
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Sorry to disappoint Rick, but I am very good looking and have no problem attracting men. Like Miss Susy said, if they are good to you and make you happy who cares if they are black, white, yellow or green and BTW, once you go black we don't want to go back....lol
Rick Roca said:I believe that u have to be a really good looking women nowadays to get a latino mans attention.... maybe ur looks jus are'nt cutting it! Remeber once u go black we dont want u back! lol
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Shaking my head.
Rick Roca said:You win maria... I give up the black guys could have you! LMAO!
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Guys can I get some more specific responses... Joking aside...
If you're black/African American- how do you feel about/view dating Hispanics?
If you're Hispanic- how do you feel about/view dating blacks/African Americans?
How do your families/peers view this?
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Permalink Reply by Sandra E. on
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Well I'm a product of an interracial marriage, as my mom is latina (Cuban/Mexican) and my dad is New Orleans Creole (a Bayou mix of French/Choctaw Indian and some African).
I can't say I have a preference, except for what I look for as far as qualities in a guy.
Smart, treats me right, personality, funny and a good chemistry.
My parents stepped out of the box, and my very large family comes in all colors. (my mom has 18 brothers and sisters, all of whom married Asian, African-American, Latino, Hawaiian and White)
I was never pushed to date a certain race-I guess because it was never something my family recognized as an issue. I've dated many latinos, since they were the ones that asked me out, but lacking in the honesty department. But at the end of the day, men are men, no matter what color-there's good ones and bad ones anywhere you go in all cultures
My take on this-It will and should be less of a taboo, and coming from Charlotte, NC, Miami is way more accepting of interracial couples and families. It won't go away if we continue to see it as an issue. I never thought of myself as an ethnicity because I don't fit any specific mold. Plus, Mixing always produces beautiful babies haha!
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Sandra-
Great feedback! Thank you!
I'm also a product of an interracial marriage being half Hispanic and half Pacific-Islander, well Cuban-Filipino to be more specific. While my mom's side of the family (Filipino) has been more socially accepting of interracial relationships, my father's side (Cuban) would never consent. His family frowned upon his marriage to my mother with her not being of Hispanic origin. Needless to say, my intermediate family has conflicting views as to what is acceptable in their eyes when it comes to the men I choose to date.
However, I don't share their views and don't feel like someones ethnic origin or skin tone would ever dictate how I feel about them or vice versa. Love doesn't have a color or a label in my book.
Sandra E. said:Well I'm a product of an interracial marriage, as my mom is latina (Cuban/Mexican) and my dad is New Orleans Creole (a Bayou mix of French/Choctaw Indian and some African).
I can't say I have a preference, except for what I look for as far as qualities in a guy.
Smart, treats me right, personality, funny and a good chemistry.
My parents stepped out of the box, and my very large family comes in all colors. (my mom has 18 brothers and sisters, all of whom married Asian, African-American, Latino, Hawaiian and White)
I was never pushed to date a certain race-I guess because it was never something my family recognized as an issue. I've dated many latinos, since they were the ones that asked me out, but lacking in the honesty department. But at the end of the day, men are men, no matter what color-there's good ones and bad ones anywhere you go in all cultures
My take on this-It will and should be less of a taboo, and coming from Charlotte, NC, Miami is way more accepting of interracial couples and families. It won't go away if we continue to see it as an issue. I never thought of myself as an ethnicity because I don't fit any specific mold. Plus, Mixing always produces beautiful babies haha!
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Joking aside my, Cuban, family would die if they knew I was "seeing" a black man. For the older cuban generation it was something they did with the maids in secret but never in public. I myself had never been attracted to a black man until now. Fortunately for me I decided to give this person a chance and found someone not only good looking but honest, sincere, intelligent, responsible, funny and crazy about me. I'm not going to marry him or have his children, been there done that, but I am going to enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts.
Miss Susy said:Sandra-
Great feedback! Thank you!
I'm also a product of an interracial marriage being half Hispanic and half Pacific-Islander, well Cuban-Filipino to be more specific. While my mom's side of the family (Filipino) has been more socially accepting of interracial relationships, my father's side (Cuban) would never consent. His family frowned upon his marriage to my mother with her not being of Hispanic origin. Needless to say, my intermediate family has conflicting views as to what is acceptable in their eyes when it comes to the men I choose to date.
However, I don't share their views and don't feel like someones ethnic origin or skin tone would ever dictate how I feel about them or vice versa. Love doesn't have a color or a label in my book.
Sandra E. said:Well I'm a product of an interracial marriage, as my mom is latina (Cuban/Mexican) and my dad is New Orleans Creole (a Bayou mix of French/Choctaw Indian and some African).
I can't say I have a preference, except for what I look for as far as qualities in a guy.
Smart, treats me right, personality, funny and a good chemistry.
My parents stepped out of the box, and my very large family comes in all colors. (my mom has 18 brothers and sisters, all of whom married Asian, African-American, Latino, Hawaiian and White)
I was never pushed to date a certain race-I guess because it was never something my family recognized as an issue. I've dated many latinos, since they were the ones that asked me out, but lacking in the honesty department. But at the end of the day, men are men, no matter what color-there's good ones and bad ones anywhere you go in all cultures
My take on this-It will and should be less of a taboo, and coming from Charlotte, NC, Miami is way more accepting of interracial couples and families. It won't go away if we continue to see it as an issue. I never thought of myself as an ethnicity because I don't fit any specific mold. Plus, Mixing always produces beautiful babies haha!
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